Counselling by:
Ilaxi Patel,Author of Guardian of Angels: A Practical Guide to Joyful Parenting)
It’s been years, since 1991, I am involved with Kids Activities & Kids Journalism. All these twenty years, it sure has been labor of love that came naturally with evaluating my own parenting and teaching techniques with kids. I ain’t a Psychologist nor a child counsellor but have remained in constant touch with kids, parents and teachers.
I have done a thorough research for writing Parental Feedback Articles and I realize my Teaching Techniques and Parental counselling has changed lives of many a kids pulling them out of their withdrawal problems like stammering, fear, anxiety, anger, shame, guilt, selfishness, attitude & behavior patterns, ego, inferiority complexes, attention deficit problems, hyper active, memory loss, etc. It so happens that our own actions can be a reflection of our own self esteem. Nurturing children is, perhaps, an exercise in perfecting our own nature. At times, one feels a failure when one aims for perfection and we discover much about ourselves as we help our children learn the attitudes and develop the skills to surmount the daily challenges of life. The nagging, negative parental attitudes we often see can be stifling and stunting instead, we can opt for opportunities to be a wonderful parent ourselves. Nothing is perfect in this world, neither children nor parents-not even love itself. But we can always strive to improve. Robert Browning once said “A man’s reach should exceed his grasp, or what’s a heaven for?” We keep on growing emotionally as we learn to understand our own children-and it’s struggle at times. Yet while our imperfections and theirs may never fully disappear, like a pebble dropped into a pond whose ripples widen and widen, so the strength and warmth of our love will reflect on their lives as well as on the lives of others.
All one need to make a big Resolution is to eliminate the word ‘Impossible’ which is a failure word. “Wont work”, “Can’t be done”, “It’s useless”, “It’s stupid” and such thoughts should never let a person shrugg off helplessness but instead “I-can-do-better” attitude makes a big difference in our own lives and in helping our kids too cope up with their weaknesses.
I hope my answers would ease the troubled minds and would fill your life with warmth and happiness. I make efforts to reply quick but if I fail to be prompt, please excuse. If you have a say, wish to debate or want to ask a question or two, please feel free to write to me – I am open for bouquets or brickbats, please:-) After all, we all learn through our very own experiences and these very experiences in life make us a better person and better moms too;-)
– ilaxi patel
Editor, www.kidsfreesouls.com
Author of Guardian of Angels
Share your experiences, exchange thoughts! If you have a say on any of the above topics, please feel free to write. Do mention age, city and country you reside alongwith brief questions. I hope my answers would soothe the troubled minds.
I can only Guide you but it’s upto you to decide upon the action. I held no responsibility on how you view & act upon the advice.
E-mail ilaxi patel – freesoul@kidsfreesouls.com
