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DAD - THE KING OF THE PALACE
New Parental concern - Dad
'A Role Model'
Promote physical, spiritual,
intellectual & emotional well being to children. Children progress in a 'free'
atmosphere with a supportive influence of parents motivating and encouraging them to
pursue their goals. A Dad is the 'Role model' who deligently offers love, understanding
and wisdom in a child's development stage.Today’s preparation determines
tomorrow’s achievements. It's time to set rules and adhere to Time management skills
and follow the four P’s – Plan Purposefully, Prepare Prayerfully, Proceed
Positively, Pursue Persistently. The proof
lies in the pudding. Offer the child an Alternative Education, a commitment, hard work,
responsibility, learning the basic skills of reading and writing at own pace with
creativity and open minds in open surroundings in tune to environment, blooming naturally!
Keep the Faith!
Editor, Kidsfreesouls
Give your Dad 'A Report Card' | Song
Lyrics 'My Daddy is the Best' | Father's Day
What Makes A Dad?
God took the
strength of a mountain, The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun, The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature, The comforting arm of
night,
The wisdom of the ages, The power of the eagle's flight,
The joy of a morning in spring, The faith of a
mustard seed,
The patience of eternity, The depth of a family need,
Then God combined these qualities, When there was
nothing more to add,
He knew His masterpiece was complete, And so, He
called it ... Dad
- Author is unknown
Being a Dad is boundless love and
enthusiasm. From the development stages to education, the role of father is equally
important as to a mother. The commitment stands joint efforts to give the best to the
children for their better future. As a father spends more time with his children, he
becomes more competent; as he gains more experience and he feels more confident; as he
begins to sincerely enjoy his time with his children. It's more likely that he'll want to
continue spending time with them. As parents work towards equilibrium in their households,
they experience parenting as teamwork. A father's involvement changes through all the
seasons of parenting.. Issues of teenage freedom, boredom or career selections stand for a
great choice where a parental guidance is most required. A father is a bread earner and so
does a working mom strive to get involved as to the needs of the kids. It’s prime
importance for Dads to get involved in the day to day affair of making the kids grow up
gracefully. Sometimes, the father is with a tug of war and the mother gets exhausted and
frustrated for not getting the proper involvement of the father in family problems related
to kids. It is during these times how to raise the youngster and share the values that are
more a need of the hour. Parents typically pass on their values not so much by talking
about them as by applying them to real situations in family life. Children learn quickly
what kinds of behavior their parents approve or disapprove. In being strict about some
things and permissive about others, parents are making implicit statements about their own
values and the ones they want their children to adopt.
A Dad who is very strict about a child
being tidy or dressing in some socially approved while showing little concern about how
the child spends free time or when the child goes to bed, may be advertently declaring
that superficial appearances and social conformity are of primary importance to the
family. Parents who stay relax about the neatness of a child’s room, but firm on the
seriousness of getting homework done, are likely to be expressing the high value they
place on education and matters of the mind. In today’s time, tuition teachers play in
a role which sometimes go adverse as a parent relax and follow the routine homework
pattern, missing out the real education in the process as the kids turn out to be only
mugging champions to score those A plus. It is a fact that almost a child will adapt to
parental values, but the child will not necessarily internalize them, take them for his or
her own, for life. There has to be a bond of trust between the parent and child,
especially the father. As a child grows up, they become quite adapt at recognizing
uncertainly and confusion in their parents’ value system and can become disenchanted
with following the rules when deeds do not match words.
A sense of self affirmation, self respect
and self esteem is the most valuable gift a parent can ever give to his child. From the
good self feelings springs all his qualities of lovingness, of humanity, of the enjoyment
of harmonious relationships. A child tends to follow the patterns of ‘self fulfilling
prohphecy’ which means, kids usually behave as we expect or rather fear, they will
have. If we teach the kid what to do and what not, we always fear the worst and cloak our
attitudes in disapproval, telling him often enough how rotten he is, our attitudes are
likely to be reflected in the child’s own behavior and self image. Remarks cuts deep
wounds which fills the kid with shame and guilt, quite often. Unburdened by the weight of
disapproval and expected failure, they learn to face each new experience in life with the
good feelings and positive outlook generated by their previous experiences. The nagging,
negative parental influence can be stifling and stunting. It is hard for a kid to shake
off anxiety about his own competence and ability to function well. This is when a father
plays a major role and help the kid out from his groove as attitude block off his capacity
to grow intellectually and emotionally and to realize his full potential. It is utmost
necessity for a Dad to build a better bridge of communication with the child as most of
the time, the king of the palace is away from home. Likewise a working mom. Children often
talk like you. They are lifelong learners and need a secure environment with love and
acceptance. A child’s desire to learn can be motivated and provide spoonfeed of
assistance all along his path of growing up gracefully.
Kidsfreesouls 9 ways
may help Dads to stand by moms in bringing up kids gracefully and help the kids to manage
their workplace with a positive rewarding experiences.
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dad is the King of the Palace and home is a place where heart is. It is equally important
role a Mom plays in nurturing relationships and keeping the family bonds alive when a Dad
is busy out earning bread and butter. With more and more couples out at workplace too, it
has become very prime importance for the parents to share their love and offer support to
the kids in their more vital stages of education and development and make their life
flower to bloom in a free atmosphere, learning at their own pace with open minds in open
surroundings in tune to present times, quite naturally! |
 Instill an appreciation of learning
: Don’t let education be a mugging experience. Help kids to be aware and informed
about themselves and others, the world and its galaxies. Your examples teaches joy,
curiosity and love of learning. Set a good example : Your child
will follow the footsteps. So take care, beware! Your kids are not only listening but
watching too. Set a good example. When they see you are an ongoing learner reading
newspapers, books or mags, the are most likely to read too. If you adopt to vices, the
kids too are watching and may follow you. If you are not organized, probably the child
will not be organized too. Right at
time of exams, the notes will be lost.
Set parameters on study time : Tution teachers are almost not required if a
parent can spare an hour or two and help kids with homework hassles and lessons. It’s
the time to be set up – time for lessons, reading, homework, television viewing,
phone calls, playing a game and so on. If there is unrestricted television viewing or
phone privileges, discourage this during study time. Teach the power of uninterrupted
concentration. Make regular time for studying.
Converse : While a mom stays busy, a dad can keep
the conversation live with the kid and be friendly. Talk ‘what you did in
school’ or ‘who are your friends’ or ‘what is your favorite subject
and why’ ‘Was the remark or less marks because you didn’t understand or
because you were scared’ and such many questions will ease up the child’s fears
and open up, speak up to find way with a touch schooling to get those As. A fatherly
attitude is important. Never argue with the child. If you are excited about new books,
friends, progress, the kids will engage in the conversation and be frank and honest. Allow
the kid to express his own ideas.
Influence : Influence plays a big role. Teach the
child, time management skills. Coping
up with school assignments, friends, extra curricular activities, family and personal time
left over is to be pre-determined for an easy flow of the day. Help the kid to list out
‘To do’ things daily or weekly that he wish to accomplish. Set priorities.
Highlight the tasks in ‘To do’ list as per most urgent and set schedules and
estimate the length of time necessary to perform each task. Long term projects can be
broken into fragments in manageable parts so the child can begin on them, not wait until
the last minute to do something that can’t be completed in a short period of time.A
dad can help out with time management in a systematic manner as he himself has to adhere
to perfect schedules of ‘Time Management’ to cope up in his business field.
Homework hassles & help: Parents too become
students along with their kids. This can be a frustrating and tension filled experience
for both parent and child. Sometimes, moms cannot cope up to help the kids or lack a maths
ability, a dad can always spare some time to tackle the tough homework hassles of the
child. For whatever reason, if this is not possible, a tution teacher help is a blessing
but it is always best to follow up what is taught to the child and be sure that it is not
a ‘mugging’ experience. Children do enjoy sorting for a shoulder for help even
for the easiest spellings or math problem. Encourage them to learn on own with right
methods and tricks of phonic drills or math calculations. Keep in mind you’re your
patience is the key to child’s success. Encourage but do not demand for A levels. Let
the child feel that you are proud of him and appreciate him with praise for positive
efforts for achievements. Do not criticize if the child fails somewhere but be tactful and
sure not to name-call a child having a rough time grasping a concept. Avoid saying
‘Do it now’ It is important not to get discouraged or over-excited with
child’s progress and these are the trial times for the Dad and Mom as well in
nurturing relationship with kids and themselves.
Teacher & tutor ‘business’ meeting :
In some cases, Parent-teacher interaction occur for one of two reasons : their child is
behaving badly or their child is having serious problems keeping up with the schoolwork.
This notion is wrong. A dad should take keen interest in the progress of the child apart
from Mom’s active participation. Don’t wait for the teacher’s approach but
schedule appointment and take intiative to call on the teacher/tution teacher and know the
progress. Speak the teacher’s language and she will report exactly how the child is
doing. Do not feel let down or embarrassed if the report is negative but understand the
problem and help the parent-teacher method towards betterment of the child. A child’s
behavior may be different than that at home, so be ready to face up his educational as
well as moral and value learning progress in a supportive manner. Some parents feel
‘My child is the best’ out of love, let this not hinder the child’s
development. Sort to ways for positive value based educational feedback.
Goal setting : A dad can be a role model to set the
goals for the child. This is a critical key to success. Short term as well as long term
goals. Make them choose realistic and attainable but still, challenging goals. Put them in
writing and set up a calendar or timetable by which progress can be measured. A child may
be able to do part of Piano solo by end of month, further practice for next month can make
him play the piece perfect on stage. Check out that the written piece of paper where the
child has set his goals is not dumped in a corner of a drawer or thrown in dustbin because
this will do no good and you and the child will forget to think further.
Encourage dreams & give rewards : Teaching
assertive skills and making the child feel their capabilities is probing their skills
individually.Each success stimulates the child’s efforts who soon has a store-house
of positive reminders of being capable, a ‘can-do’ person. Moms often get
irritant and feel down with failures of the child but failures are not bad sometimes.
Failures make kids realize their mistakes and a Dad’s supportive role makes him
realize ‘I didn’t study hard enough; I’ll have to watch less tv or talk
less on phones now’ or ‘I’ve had headache’ sort of excuse is no good.
Children love to dream and dive into fantasy. Let them dream for great chances and inspire
them to spring out fruitful results next time. Give rewards but do not make him feel that
he has done the best if he has scored lower than A plus. Do not blame the system but
encourage him to work harder for those desired A plus. |
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